Valentine’s Day is traditionally a time to celebrate love, whether it’s for a partner, a friend, or even yourself. As witches, we know that Valentine Day magic also offers us an opportunity to tap into the energy of the season to manifest love in our lives. Whether you’re looking to attract a new partner, nurture an existing relationship, or strengthen your connection with yourself, Valentine magic can help amplify your intentions.
In this post, we’ll explore how we can use Valentine Day magic to bring love into our lives, along with simple, ethical spells for attracting the right partner and practicing self-love. Let’s embrace this beautiful day and harness its energy to transform our lives with love.
A History of Valentine Rituals
Valentine’s Day is named after St. Valentine, a Christian martyr who lived during the 3rd century. There are several legends about who Valentine truly was, but one popular story suggests that he was a priest in Rome who defied Emperor Claudius II’s ban on marriages for young soldiers. Valentine secretly married couples to help them avoid the harshness of the emperor’s decree. In honour of his sacrifices, St. Valentine became a symbol of love and devotion.
However, the holiday’s roots may extend even further back. Some scholars suggest that Valentine’s Day is linked to the ancient Roman festival of Lupercalia, celebrated in mid-February. This festival honoured the god Faunus and was associated with fertility, purification and matchmaking rituals. As with many Christian holidays, the early church repurposed and adapted these ancient traditions to coincide with the celebration of St. Valentine, blending pagan and Christian elements into the modern holiday we know today.
For many, Valentine’s Day can bring up feelings of longing, heartbreak, or frustration. If you are feeling this way because you are single, struggling in a relationship, or simply not receiving the love you desire, Valentine Day magic can help shift your energy. As witches, we understand that magic isn’t about escaping pain—it’s about transformation. Valentine’s Day is an invitation to embrace the energy of love, to heal past wounds and to open ourselves up to new possibilities.
Self-love, in particular, is a powerful form of magic as it is the foundation for any healthy relationship. Without self-love, we may find ourselves attracting partners who don’t honour us or struggling to maintain the love we deserve. This Valentine Day, let’s focus on using magic to heal, to attract the right partner, and to cultivate the self-love that empowers us to receive the best that life has to offer.
Valentine Day Magic: Simple Spells for Love and Self-Love
Now, let’s look at how we can use Valentine’s Day magic to manifest love in our lives, whether it’s attracting the right partner, strengthening an existing relationship, or deepening our connection with ourselves. Below are a few simple, spells to help you tap into the loving energy of the season.
Valentine Day Spell to Attract the Right Partner
This Valentine Day magic spell is perfect for those seeking to manifest a healthy, loving and harmonious relationship. The key to success is setting clear intentions and trusting that the right person will come into your life when the time is right.
You Will Need
A red candle or LED candle
A piece of rose quartz (for unconditional love)
A pen and paper
A fireproof plate
What to Do
Begin by grounding yourself, cleansing your space and casting your circle if that is part of your practice. When you are ready, light the red candle.
You may want to meditate for a few minutes and tune into your intuition before writing down the qualities you’re looking for in a partner on the piece of paper. Be specific about what your desire, but try to remain open to the unexpected.
Now hold the rose quartz against your heart. Visualise the love you desire flowing toward you and building in your heart space. Imagine this light flowing throughout your body enveloping you in feelings of love, joy and bliss.
Slowly and mindfully read the intentions for your ideal partner that you wrote down earlier. When you are ready, light the corner of the paper and drop it into the fireproof bowl. If you are not using a real flame, you may shred the paper or bury it in a plant pot or outside.
If you wish, scatter the ashes to the wind, symbolising the release of your wishes into the universe.
Keep the rose quartz close to you to remind yourself that love is on its way.
This Valentine Day magic will help clear the path for the right partner to enter your life when the time is right.
Valentine Day Spell for Self-Love and Healing
Self-love is the cornerstone of attracting the right relationships and living a fulfilling life. This simple self-love valentine day spell can help heal emotional wounds and open your heart to your own worth.
You Will Need
A pink candle (for love and compassion)
Lavender oil diluted in a carrier oil (optional)
A mirror
A small piece of amethyst (for spiritual clarity)
What to Do
Prepare your sacred space and anoint the candle with lavender oil before lighting it.
Sit in front of a mirror and gaze into your own eyes. See yourself as you truly are—worthy of love, peace and joy. Say aloud: “I am worthy of love. I am deserving of happiness. I open myself to the love I give to myself.”
Hold the amethyst and focus on your breath. Imagine healing light surrounding your heart. As the candle burns, allow the light to fill you with a sense of deep self-love and peace. When you are ready, extinguish the candle and thank yourself for showing up to show yourself love.
By embracing this Valentine’s Day magic, you’ll enhance your connection with yourself, bringing a stronger foundation to all the love that follows.
Spell to Strengthen Existing Relationships
If you’re already in a loving relationship, use this Valentine Day magic spell to reignite the passion and deepen your connection with your partner. Discuss this with your partner beforehand to ensure they are happy with what you are planning. Even better, do the spell together.
What you Need
Two red candles (symbolising you and your partner)
A pink ribbon
A shared object of sentimental value
What to Do
Prepare your sacred space before lighting the red candles that symbolise you and your partner.
Now, hold the shared object between you both, focusing on the bond you share. Wrap the pink ribbon around the object, visualising your connection growing stronger with each turn.
Together, say: “With love, we bind our hearts and souls, growing stronger together, always.”
When you feel ready, extinguish the candles. You can relight them at any time to strengthen and reinforce the spell.
Keep the object in a place where you will both see it daily as a reminder of your deepening relationship.
This Valentine’s Day magic will help strengthen and reinforce the love you already share, allowing it to flourish even more.
As witches, we know that Valentine Day magic is not just about celebrating romantic love—it’s about honouring all forms of love. It’s a time to nurture the relationships we already have and to call in new connections that align with our highest good. Whether you’re seeking a new partner or strengthening your self-love, this season offers the perfect opportunity to tap into the loving energy around us. May the magic of Valentine’s Day inspire you to embrace love in all its beautiful forms.
i hope you have found these simple Valentine day spells inspiring. Let me know if you tried any out!
Happy Valentine’s Day
Eva x